Overcoming Anger (2)

Overcoming anger is not about suppressing it but rather about understanding and managing it effectively. Uncontrolled anger is a destructive force that harms relationships and one’s well-being. It breeds bitterness, damages communication, and can lead to regrettable actions. Physically, anger contributes to stress-related health issues. Spiritually, it distances individuals from peace and compassion. The Bible warns against the dangers of unbridled anger, emphasizing the need for self-control (Proverbs 14:29, Ephesians 4:26-27). Acknowledging and managing anger is essential for emotional health, harmonious relationships, and a fulfilling spiritual life.

Overcoming Anger

I. WHEN IS ANGER WRONG?

  1. Some Bible verses clearly tell us not to be angry. (Eph. 4:31; Col. 3:8; Prov. 29:11, and many more.)
  2. Other passages forbid provoking others to anger, and especially our children (Prov. 20:9; Col. 3:21). In Proverbs 15:18 and 16:32 we are encouraged to be slow to anger, i.e. take time to think before acting.
  3. People given to anger should be avoided. (Prov. 22:24, 25; 29:22)

II. WHEN IS ANGER RIGHT?

Ephesians 4:24 declares “Be angry and sin not.” This does not contradict what was just stated above. It is called righteous anger. The person is aware of it and in control of it. Jesus Christ showed us the right kind of anger (Mark 3; Matthew 23; John 2). And the major characteristic of this kind of anger is: It is directed against wrong deeds, or situations, not against people. It ought to lead to positive and constructive action to right the wrong.

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III. HOW DO YOU HANDLE ANGER?

  1. Sometimes overcoming anger is not easy; but first, when you are angry, accept the fact of your anger, admit it to the Lord. Confess it and take full responsibility for it. Don’t project the blame on someone else by saying “You made me angry.” No one else can make you angry; you allow it yourself. You are to blame, and no one else.
  2. Second, try to understand what You are doing to make yourself angry. It is not the situation, it is YOU.
  3. Third, control your anger. It is possible, Pray about it. Think before you act. The Holy Spirit will help you.
  4. Fourth, don’t respond to anger with anger (Prov. 15:1), but rather speak softly and get control of your person.
  5. Fifth, spend time visualizing how you want to respond the next time you may possibly get angry and practice it. (Prov. 15:1; Phil. 4:6-9).
  6. Sixth, develop a sense of humor; it will keep you from taking yourself too seriously.
  7. Use discretion. Prov19:11 Think deep and look for excuses that would have been responsible for the behavior of the other person or group of persons.

In conclusion, overcoming anger is a vital skill that contributes to emotional resilience and overall well-being as a Christian. By understanding the roots of anger, employing effective management strategies, and seeking support when needed, you can transform your life with this powerful emotion.